Keeping it Together

July 30, 2008

Keeping it Together

By David Rice M.A., M.A. L.P.C.

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An airplane must have a charted course if it is going to reach its desired destination. Without a plan, you might end up anywhere. Sure, you are flying, but not knowing where you’re going to land can be scary. Pilots and navigators work together to get the plane where it needs to go. If the navigation is off just a little bit at the start of the flight, then it will not get to the right place. Mariage isn’t much different than that. A couple needs to decide at the beginning where they want to be at the end of their journey. Do they want to be together forever? Do they want to try things out and see where they end up? Do they want to live together for a while, have children, and see somewhere down the road if they want to get married? Do they want children? Where do they want to live? All these questions need to be answered before getting together. What about religion? If you have children, what faith will they be raised in? What is the couple going to do about finances? Will they share the responsibility, or will one partner control all the money? Does the couple have a place to move to on their own, or do they plan to live with mom and dad? And by the way, what is the long-term goal for the couple? All these questions will impact the couple’s ability to reach that goal, and if not planned for, will seem very confusing. By knowing the destination in advance, and having a clear idea of how to get there, these questions will not be so confusing. Everything will be done with the destination in mind. It’s a good idea to talk about these things before getting together, otherwise you might end up asking yourself “how did I get here and what do I do now?”

See you next week 

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